Ladies, Lets get NAKED

When I say "natural beauty", what is the first image that pops into your head? I'm willing to bet that it isn't an image of yourself. 

And that is SAD.

I once read something that said something along the lines of "Don't compare your behind the scenes to someone else's highlight reel." and oh, how true is that? I've seen quite a few people who have written off Instagram because of the false sense of perfectionism that can be applied to someone's life. I get it. I find myself looking at other mom pages on there and thinking, "how in the heck do they dress their children in nice clothes every day, cook dinner, clean the house and keep themselves looking presentable at the same time. But then I add these moms on snapchat.... and oh my.... I'll let you in on a little secret:They're just like the rest of us! Chaos, messes and bad days.

Kind of like celebrities:

I am NOT someone who has the energy to get myself around every day. Especially if I'm not going anywhere. Can I get an "AMEN"? Then most of the time when I do actually get to leave the house without the kids, I  DEFINITELY do not have the energy to get myself together. After checking to make sure I don't have food on my face or clothes, I run like hell. But that is the difference between Kailei- pre kids and Kailei- post kids. I wouldn't have been caught dead outside of my house without my hair AND makeup perfect pre kids. Today, I am just happy when the kids and I can complete a shopping trip without any major tantrums or blow out diapers- naked face and all.

There was something I saw shared on facebook that said, "If it takes you more than 30 minutes to get ready, maybe you aren't as pretty as you think you are." Uhhhhh, no. Betch, If it takes me 7 hours to get ready, I am still just as pretty as I think I am. Because ain't no body going to knock on my confidence!

Now with that being said, I agree that some women still have a better grasp on being a "natural beauty" or being "naked faced" than I do. 

Have you ever tried to draw a picture of something and had it turn out like this?

Well, that's basically how my life goes. I watch a contouring tutorial and end up looking like snooki because my entire face is covered in bronzer. Or when I've achieved the perfect eye shadow but then this happens

This can be applied to all areas of my life.

If I want to look good, I've got to work for it.

To quote Mama June

  But even then, in the words of Jenna Marbles, "I have three looks"

The same goes for my hair also.

But seriously, if you were to add up all of the money you spend a month on trying to be a "natural beauty", would you be shocked? Ashamed? I know that the final total will differ from one woman to the next, but no matter how small, there is still a number; mascara, foundation, powder, concealer, hair spray, lip gloss/stick, bras, straightener, curling irons, moisturizers, lotions, perfumes....

Now think about the reason you have, or for most women, need all of those things. When I asked women, their responses were all very similar; "because I need it." "Because I look awful without it" "I would die if I didn't have it" but not a single response had anything to do with themselves. No one said, "I have it because I like to wear it". We all have insecurities, we all have flaws, but honestly, aren't our flaws what make us unique? 

Once my little sister asked me to take my picture and I wouldn't let her because I didn't have my make up on. She was maybe 3 and I was 20. She didn't understand why it mattered, but I told her that I didn't like the way I looked without it and boy, did she give me the craziest look. But up until that exact moment, I  had never thought about how silly it sounded or how ridiculous it was that I was implying to my baby sister, a little girl who had yet to be tainted by ads and the world, that she would eventually not be good enough unless she was wearing make up? 

From that moment on, I always told her differently. When she would want to put on make up because I was too, I always asked her, "why do we wear make up?" and she always responded," not because we need it but because it is fun to put on." 

Think about the influence you're putting out into the world. Are you being a good example to your daughters, sisters, friends, etc?

Give this a thought, if we all boycotted companies that told us that we weren't good enough for the rest of the world because we didn't use their products, how much better of a place would the world be? 

Besides, why is it just women?

Because lets face it: There is no winning. Skinny or Plump. Make up or Natural.

We will always be labeled something by society.

I've asked for some women to volunteer going all natural to show women all over the world that there is beauty in just being Y-O-U! 

Amber

Janice

 Bobbi

Sharon

 Jody

And last but not least, my naked face

Ladies, in 2016 take the time to learn to love your naked face and always remember:

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How Eating A Candy Bar Made Me A Better Person

“Anyone can have a child and call themselves a “parent”. A real parent is someone who puts that child above their own selfish needs and wants."

And right here and now, I call BULLSHITTTTTTT.

Lets start this blog off by posting a few parenting basics:

1. No two children are parented the same way
2. Each parent has the right to choose what the best way to raise their child is
3. Pizza IS a suitable dinner to serve on a weekly basis

Now with that being said, putting your child (job, spouse, friends, etc) before yourself all of the time is wrong. I realize that not everyone has a choice to live life this way, but let me shine a little light on this new parenting "trick" that I've recently discovered. This "trick" can be applied to many situations in life, but for the purpose of this post and based off of my life, I'm going to be posting as a mom to my kids but that by no means rules out anyone who isn't a parent!

It's called BEING SELFISH.

Whoaaaaa, did I really just say that?! YES.

Think about it this way: You have two empty cups. One on the left is you and the one of the right signifies something in your life (kids, spouse, job, etc). Now, pick up the cup on the left and pour everything that is in it into the cup on the right. Seems pointless, right? The same thing applies to life. How can you pour encouragement into your children and make a positive impact on their lives if you've got nothing left to give?

Just a few of the reasons that I condone Selfish Parenting:

1. Is the fact that you didn't let your child eat the last candy bar that they just asked for because you've been looking forward to inhaling it in peace after they go to bed going to affect their life in the long run? I don't think so. But will it affect yours? Abso-feckin-lutely. I mean, maybe you had already snuck into the pantry earlier that day and demolished that piece of candy because you were feeling overwhelmed and needed something that was just for you. Sometimes the only thing that helps us make it through the day as a parent is knowing that there is a little treat waiting for us once we're alone. And that's okay. Because in my opinion, sneaking a small pleasure when you get the chance makes you a better person.

2. Because in what way, shape or form is being short with your child(ren), yelling at them or not wanting to be around them because you're exhausted helpful to them in shaping their future. Treating your child(ren) in this way (whether on purpose or unintentionally) only teaches them that they're unimportant or are annoying to you- which I am sure isn't the cause. I know that most parents wake up, rush around to get things around for their day. Drop the kids off at school and day care, head into their stressful job, leave at the end of the day, pick up your child(ren), take them home, feed them, homework, bathe them and then put them so sleep. For stay at home parents, your schedule may look a little different, but just as exhausting. At what point are you supposed to take some time for yourself to relax and unwind? What if your little one has a nightmare or your sleep training child is refusing to sleep? But it is SO essential to make sure that you take some time for yourself where you're not worrying about bills or the kids and their needs or work. I don't care if you have to fake having diarrhea when your significant other gets home just so you can hide out in the bathroom (with a bottle of wine that your strategically placed in there before you S/O got home) for some R&R. 

3. SLEEP TRAINING! I know that there are people who think that letting your child cry it out is neglectful and that it will make your child hate bed time. I

cannot tell you how many times I've heard this statement argued:

But I am here to tell you that done correctly, it is heaven on earth. 

I am VERY aware of the controversy associated with this topic, but this is just my personal experience with Selfish Parenting. I have successfully sleep trained my son who is now almost 20 months and am in the process of training my 8 month old. She's a little more stubborn than my son was, but well get there eventually. But I am someone who NEEDS alone time and since becoming a mother, that time is few and far between. Not even while using the restroom or showering. So, for me, when the kids go to bed that time is MINE. I don't care if I have to stay up until midnight to get a few moments to myself, I am willing to do that because ME TIME is a necessity to my sanity. Boundaries are important and there's no harm in instilling them in your children while they're still young.

I have heard quite a few mothers say, "My kids are the best reason to lose sleep". Cool. I'm glad that works for you. But for me, making sure that my children can put themselves to sleep and are able to stay asleep is important to me. I also make sure that after a certain age, my kids sleep in their own beds as well. I am covered in babies and baby's messes all day, I need to make sure that when night time comes, I am able to unwind and have something to

myself. 

As some of my readers are new, I'll give a little recap on my story: My husband (J) and I tried to have children for 5 years, we tried everything, but due to me being diagnosed with endometriosis and PCOS (Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome) we were told that I was infertile. So with that information along with some personal issues we had been having, we decided to get a divorce after 5years of marriage. Well, one night I decided that it was a good idea to stop over to J's house and lo' and behold, we conceived our son. (Life is funny like that, isn't it?). We decided to get back together for the sake of the baby (Cause that always works out, right? Lol) While I was pregnant, we moved a few times due to J's job. We ended up In Las Vegas, NV around delivery time. Well, as to expect given our circumstance, we fell on rough times again in our relationship. We decided that we were better off as friends and to go our own ways. But then we found out that only 4 months postpartum, I was expecting again. 

After the completely normal stages of shock, we still decided that not being together is what would be best for the babies. So my my son and I moved back to Michigan and J stayed in Vegas due to his job being too amazing to leave. So since being 10 weeks pregnant and my son being 5 months old, its really just been the 3 of us. While J still fully supports us financially, that means that he isn't around to help out with the day to day needs of the kids. My daughter was born early, so I had a newborn as well as an 11 month old. J came back as frequently as he could, but that wasn't very often. So I was run pretty ragged, always putting my babies first. My daughter also had tummy issued which caused her to scream non stop. I was at my wits end.  Well, recently I have been afforded to luxury of J moving back to Michigan temporarily and therefore I am able to have a little more "me time" and OH MY GOSH! I feel like a million bucks. Most of my alone time usually consists of being able to shower alone or being able to stay in bed for an extra hour or so on occasion. But it helps SO much. Me time doesn't have to be all day or cost money. Sometimes its just knowing that after the kids are in bed, you'll get a moment to watch your favorite show on Netflix or to have a glass of wine in a real wine glass instead of taking just a swig or two out of the bottle because you know that you wont get the time to sit down and finish a glass.

"There's a saying that goes, "You can't treat people like shit and then expect them to love you." That applies to yourself also. You can't neglect yourself, your appearance, you hobbies or your needs and then expect to be happy with yourself. 

I am not here to tell you how to live your life or that what worked for me is going to work for you. But what I am telling you is that it IS possible to love your kids, to love your life and to love yourself all at the same time!

So with that being said, today is a clean slate, the first day of a new year. Take 2016 and make it great. Make it something to be proud of and in the end, make sure that you love yourself and BE A PROUD SELFISH PARENT.

Mombie Bun Confession #1

We're all sleep deprived.

We all wear mom buns.

We all need an outlet.

So, recently we've branched out onto social media- Instagram:

@MombieBunConfession

((Head on over there and give us a "follow"))

For today's post, it only seems appropriate that we share some of the confessions that we've had submitted by our fellow mombies from all over the world! We will also be featuring their IG names, so if you like their confession, feel free to look them up and give them a "follow"!

Mombie Bun Confession from @msjasonmiller : ||the higher the bun the closer to heaven therefore better the mom, it's a scientific fact ||

Mombie Bun Confession from @sarahyostie : When my husband watches our twin girls while I go run errands, I tell him I'll hurry back. But really I take my time. I mean, really take my time. I get McDonalds, park somewhere and eat it. ALONE. QUIET. In peace and with no interruption. 

Mombie Bun Confession from @jess_indykenlee : Ok I think I'm more excited about The big red man coming then my little twin is!

Mombie Bun Confession from @aliciamariewallace : I always said I would never be that SAHM who didn't wear makeup & wore pjs all day. Reality check: now I only put on makeup if I'm leaving the house & totally consider leggings as pants. Lesson learned! Don't judge motherhood til you've been there

Mombie Bun Confession from @shayheff1 : I drink wine in the shower

Mombie Bun Confession from @tjd87 : I tel my kids they can't have a cookie because it's 8am. And when they're not looking I scarf down three or four

Mombie Bun Confession from @raising_acamas : I sometimes pretend I have to go to the bathroom to get away but my baby always finds me d:

Mombie Bun Confession from @beauty_by_jd : Sometimes I take the last snack or piece of candy and hide from the kids in the bathroom! Lol. 

Don't worry! No one in judging you here!

HUGE shout out to all of ournMombies for the submissions of their photos and confessions!

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Are You Plucking Kidding Me?!

For anyone who knows me, they know that one (of many) things that drive me CRAZY are poorly shaped brows. Seriously. Think of them this way, eyebrows are to the eyes what a push up bra is the tatas. Poor bra? You'll have saggy yabos. Poor brows? You'll have saggy eyes.

RULE#1: Eyebrows should ALWAYS have hair. ALWAYS.

Because "I love your drawn-on eyebrows, They look so natural!", has been said by no one. Ever.

Lets face it, eyebrows speak louder than words. They are SO important. Plus, they're so easy to maintain. Eyebrows are the one thing on a woman’s, nay, a person’s body that can be kept in shape without exercising. 

But you have to be careful. Because as much as you want to make sure they're not too thin (the thinner the brow, the crazier the woman), you also want to make sure that they're not too thick either. But if you've got it, flaunt it. There have been some pretty famous icons who rocked their naturally thick brows:

Audrey Hepburn

Keira Knightley

Jennifer Connelly

 Lily Collins

But ladies, I am here to tell you that if you don't have naturally thick brows, please PLEASE do not COLOR them in to "appear" so. Because THIS is how ridiculous it looks:

WE CAN SEE YOUR REAL BROWS UNDERNEATH!

So Stop. Just stop.

Because I am really starting to worry about the future generations... Case and POINT

THIS girl is receiving compliments on her brows?! 

YES, I understand that I do not have the best brows ever. Would it hurt me to shade them in a bit when I do my makeup? Probably not. But at least I try my best to keep them groomed and as close to the same shape as possible. Keeping in mind that eyebrows are more like sisters than twins.

If you walk away from reading this blog and can only remember one thing (please don't let it be the hot dog Ariel), let it be THIS:

Don't let ANYONE with bad eyebrows tell you SHIT about life!

Oh, and for the heck of it, here are some celebrities without their eyebrows